I know this is a hard one for all of us. We thinking venting will make us feel better but it makes us angrier, and it keeps us focused on the problem. If we want to develop a new mindset, then we need to be aware of when we are complaining because it drains us. This doesn’t mean that we should dismiss our feelings. Delve into them, feel them, and discuss them with your loved one with the goal of figuring out how to move forward.
The key here is to catch yourself. We all think we don’t complain, but we do. I have drastically cut down my complaints, and my life is so much better for it. However, I still do catch myself from time to time. I have practiced noticing my thoughts and when I complain it doesn’t feel good now. When I recognize this feeling, I reel myself back in and learn more about myself. I do it every day. Let’s work on catching ourselves when we start to complain and become more self-aware in the process.
Arathi Ramappa is a certified executive coach, certified spiritual life coach, speaker, and management consultant who helps individuals thrive in life and business. Using the concepts of emotional intelligence, self-compassion, and mindfulness, Arathi has helped clients start their own businesses, develop leadership skills, diminish conflict in relationships, implement positive behaviors, and increase confidence.
Arathi offers one-on-one coaching and emotional intelligence and conscious principles workshops to organizations. She created the EASE approach to help others Explore, Analyze, Strengthen, and Empower their thinking to identify and conquer obstacles to success and change their lives and businesses.
With twenty years of experience in business management coupled with certifications in coaching and emotional intelligence, Arathi’s background as a serial entrepreneur and a veteran in the start-up space has provided her with extensive cross-functional knowledge that she can apply to any situation or client. She has managed teams globally in places such as India, Japan, China, Germany, Canada, Taiwan, Eastern Europe, as well as the U.S., and has worked with a wide range of clients including from the financial, healthcare, cybersecurity, and fashion industries, among others.
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